We are on Part II of our series surrounding Seeking Wise Counsel to build a Healthy Marriage. In this episode we explore 3 kinds of counsel you should avoid, 4 kinds of counsel you should consider having, and 5 things to remember when choosing wise counsel for your healthy marriage. Remember, we are focused here just on Wise Counsel as it relates to your relationship with your Spouse
The 3 types of counsel you should avoid (details on why explained in the episode):
1) A person of the opposite sex, with the exception of a professional relationship – i.e. counselor, psychologist, lawyer, and clergy
2) Those going through a divorce
3) Family Members (there can be exceptions to this).
The 4 types of wise counsel to consider include:
What was the inspiration for this series?
I usually like to give the background of a podcast to put the message in some form of context. There were two things that inspired this series. One of our listeners had mentioned that she was on her third and her new husband on his second marriage and they had wanted to make their marriage work. She mentioned that she would like to get her husband listening to the podcast, but was not sure how. This got us thinking on this subject, but we did not have the time to really dig into it at the time she asked it.
Then, Andy Stanley’s recent series, Ask It, brought up an interesting point when it came to seeking the counsel of others. One of the thrusts of his message was don’t let your pride prevent you from listening to wise counsel.
Episode # 5 – Are you a Safe Spouse?
Welcome to Healthy Married Life, a podcast dedicated to learning, growing and maintaining a Healthy Married Life so that you can take your relationship to the next level.
In this episode we want you to ask yourself (and your spouse) Are You a Safe Spouse?
In our last episode (Five Healthy Ways to Plan for the Busy Holiday Season) we discussed making sure that you left breathing room in your schedule to have what we call Couch time. This is the time where you just sit on the Couch and talk with your spouse. Ideally it would be something that is spontaneous and not something that is forced.
The subject came up because we had previously found couch time in the day and realized that it had been months since our last chance to have couch time. During the episode, we asked the question of why we don’t do it more. What is holding us back? In trying to answer this question over the course of the past couple weeks, we realized that for some couples, it might be that one or both do not feel “safe” talking to their spouse, so they hesitate to have couch time.
That was part of the reason we decided to ask the following question in this episode: Are you a Safe Spouse?
In this episode we talked about 5 Healthy Ways to Plan for the Holiday Season. But, the Healthy Tips we are giving do not necessarily have to do with eating healthy.
Before we get into the 5 tips, we need to give you some background as to why we are talking about this in September.
So at the time of recording this episode, it is September. Halloween is nearly six weeks away, Thanksgiving and Christmas 2 and a half and 3 and half months away respectively. Why are we talking about the holiday season now? Because this is the season when we have the most going on. In order to get accomplished what we want to get accomplished, we have to start now.
In this Episode, Leh and Stephanie explore laughter in a healthy marriage. What are seven simple things you can do to keep laughter in a your healthy marriage and what are the six times you should avoid humor in your relationship.
Sorry for not having published another episode. There has been a death in the family. We will return very soon, however, with another episode!
Episode # 2 – Do you know your spouses’ love language?
In this episode we talked about Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages
He actually has an entire series of books centered on this concept, which I have listed below. We only discussed one of his books in this episode. In addition to The Five Love Languages, we have also read The Five Love Languages for Children, but that will probably be the subject of a later podcast.
The 5 Love Languages of Children
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
The 5 Love Languages Men’s Edition
The Five Love Languages Singles Edition
The 5 Love Languages Military Edition
The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers New Edition: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively
This podcast is by no means a replacement for the book. It is just going to be a teaser to encourage you to go out and pick up a copy for yourself.
The Five Love Languages: How to express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
Leh keeps a couple copies of this book in his office at work. Last year, he knows that six couples read this book after he suggested they read it. All of them dismissed their divorce after reading this book. Only one of them re-filed for divorce. That’s a pretty good success rate!